A lone man cloaked in shadow stands with his back turned from the viewer. He looks at the city skyline of Seattle.
Alexander Nguyen (not pictured) moved to Seattle after he got a job offer from Amazon in 2020. Despite the $150,000 salary, he wishes he had stayed in New York.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Alexander Nguyen, a software engineer who moved from New York City to Seattle for a job at Amazon. It was his first job out of college, and he says it was the loneliest time of his life. The following has been edited for length and clarity.