I moved to NYC right after college to work in fashion — but people were unfriendly and my dream turned into a nightmare

• Julia Fernsby moved to New York City from Ireland right after college to work in fashion. 
• Her dream job was not what she envisioned, and the city felt overwhelming and unfriendly.
• If your dream doesn't work out, let go of your disappointment ASAP and pivot, she advises.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Julia Fernsby, a 34-year-old UX/UI and graphic designer based in Cohasset, Massachusetts. It's been edited for length and clarity.