Figure out what you actually want to do, not what you think you should

• Here's some career and life advice: Beware "the tyranny of the should."
• We often do things not because we want to but because we and others think we should.
• One of your career goals is to figure out what you actually want.

Back when I was "finding myself" in my mid-20s, a friend of my father's gave me a piece of advice I've remembered since — one that has helped me not only in my career but in life.