Illustration of two office chairs.
All around the office, your managers, direct reports, and peers are spending some untold portion of company time daydreaming about or flirting with each other.

In 2018, Derek was working 80 hours a week as a paralegal for a major law firm in New York City, his first job out of school. He had a boyfriend, but they weren't seeing much of each other: "He was just this boy I would climb into bed with at 3 a.m., and then he would wake up and go to work while I was still asleep."

Four months into his job, Derek was sent on a two-month work trip to Singapore, along with a team of lawyers he barely knew. He was nervous and isolated at first, working 14-hour days in a tiny hotel room. But before long he hit it off with Brendan, a lawyer who shared his sense of humor. Soon they were spending their free time exploring the city together and hanging out in each other's rooms.