I found out my boyfriend had 3 other girlfriends. Then I became friends with the other women.

• Samantha Tsang was dating a man for three years before finding out about his lies.
• She reached out to the other women, and formed friendships with some of them.
• Those relationships helped her heal, she said.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Samantha Tsang. It has been edited for length and clarity.

I met my ex on a dating app in 2020. I was ready to settle down, and he seemed to be too, so things got serious quickly. We bought a dog and picked out an engagement ring.