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  • "Shut-up ring" has become a popular way to describe imbalanced relationships on social media.
  • They describe relationships in which one person proposed just to appease the other.
  • A wedding therapist said being honest about your needs can help you avoid a "shut-up ring."

When Monica Millington got engaged for the first time, she felt like she had been begging her then-partner to propose.

Ten years ago, 33-year-old Millington, the founder of the clothing brand Sette, a content creator, and a soon-to-be podcast host, was in a long-distance relationship that felt like it was going nowhere.