Tired and despaired blonde woman sits hunched over a table, her face filled with sorrow.
The author says she heard what she needed from a new partner to finally forgive herself.
  • Nicola Prentis cheated on her boyfriend during his 15 months' military service.
  • She spent three years trying to earn back his trust and forgiveness but it didn't work.
  • Then a new guy she was dating said something very simple and she forgave herself.

One line of Dave Grohl's infidelity statement took me back to the aftermath of when I cheated on my Turkish boyfriend in Istanbul in 2008. Grohl said, "I am doing everything I can to regain their trust and earn their forgiveness." I spent three years trying to do that and it cost me entire sense of self until I finally forgave myself.