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- Ramses and Marissa are one of the engaged couples featured on "Love Is Blind" season seven.
- They have difficult conversations in the second batch of episodes about the military and their sex life.
- Both are posting fondly about their time on the show, but a teaser hints there are difficulties ahead.
Warning: Major spoilers through "Love Is Blind" season seven, episode nine ahead.
"Love Is Blind" season seven's most candid on-screen couple may have a rocky road ahead on the show — but they're looking back at it fondly on social media.
Ramses, a 35-year-old program associate at a justice reform nonprofit, and Marissa, a 32-year-old lawyer, hit it off in the pods and eventually got engaged.
When they returned from a post-engagement trip to Mexico, they had some frank discussions while living together. Ramses had strong, anti-imperialist, and critical views of the United States military. And while Marissa shared some of them, as a former service member, she empathized with those serving today.
It was a remarkable conversation for "Love Is Blind," which as Vulture's Kathryn VanArendonk wrote, "has never swerved toward anything as directly political as 'what role should America play on the global stage.'"
Ramses and Marissa's discussion also has significant reach: Seasons of "Love Is Blind" are viewed by millions of people, per Netflix's own engagement numbers.
Here's what we know about where Ramses and Marissa's relationship stands now.
Marissa and Ramses have some difficult post-engagement conversations on the show.
Marissa has connections with both Ramses and another contestant, Bohdan, in the pods. But eventually, she cuts off her relationship with Bohdan in favor of pursuing the one she has with Ramses.
In episode five, Ramses proposes to her. After meeting in person later that episode, producers select the couple as one of the six pairs they'll continue following on a post-engagement trip to Mexico.
Overall, that trip goes smoothly for them. But by episode seven, Ramses and Marissa are back in the real world and differences arise.
The two move in together and begin to discuss their upcoming wedding. They also discuss their opposing views on the United States military: While both share an anti-imperialist critique of the institution, Marissa grew up in the military, served for eight years after college, and says that she supports those who currently serve. She says that she doesn't want Ramses to feel "ashamed" of her service. He confirms that he likely wouldn't want to be with her if she was a reservist.
"I wouldn't, like, want anyone to feel shame about their past," he says. "As long as it's in your past."
The topic comes up again in episode eight, during a conversation with Marissa's friends, and the couple says that they were able to talk through their differences.
In episode nine, Ramses and Marissa meet with Marissa's family. While her siblings approve of the couple, Marissa's mom is skeptical and strongly urges the couple to get a prenuptial agreement out of concern for Marissa's future assets. Still, Marissa tells Ramses later that her mom hasn't dissuaded her from marrying him.
Later in that episode, however, the two hit another, different roadblock: They have different timelines for children. While Ramses prefers to wait four years, Marissa wants to have their first child sooner.
When they begin to discuss contraceptive options, they find they're at another impasse. Marissa doesn't want to go on birth control, but Ramses says that having sex with a condom isn't as pleasurable.
"Sex is supposed to be, like, mutually enjoyable. That's not something that guys ever have the pressure of having to think about," he says.
"Yeah, well, here's the pressure. I'm not going to go on birth control," Marissa replied.
"Sounds good, baby. We need to do what we need to do, but I need the sex to be enjoyable," he says.
Are Ramses and Marissa still together?
Right now, both Marissa and Ramses are posting fondly about their time on "Love Is Blind" on social media. They also still follow each other on Instagram — and it's entirely possible that they're still together.
On Tuesday, the day before the second batch of episodes dropped on Netflix, Ramses posted a series of photos and clips from the show, many of them featuring Marissa.
"remind me: 4+4 equals what???" he captioned the post.
Marissa has also posted about her and Ramses' discussion about her military service on social media, sharing articles and other social media posts on her Instagram story. In one TikTok video, she joked that her service was singing the song "I'll Make a Man Out of You" from the Disney movie "Mulan."
"Navigating different views with your partner can be challenging, but I'm proud of how much I've grown in my beliefs. I'm also grateful that Ramses and I were able to create space for each other to express ourselves openly," she wrote in the caption.
She also shared photos from the Mexico trip on Instagram, reminiscing about her time with Ramses there — even a date where she got seasick.
"We had to end the date early, and I felt awful knowing how much he'd been looking forward to it," she continued. "But instead of being upset, he was beyond caring, making sure I was okay every step of the way. His love and support in that moment meant the world to me."
Unfortunately, the teaser for the rest of the season shown at the end of episode nine hints at future disagreements on the series — particularly around their sex life.
"Sex is really important. Just trying to figure out long-term if that would be an issue for me," Ramses says in the clip.
One of Marissa's previous connections also makes an appearance — Bohdan, who she turned down in the pods in favor of Ramses. They reconnect at a party with the other cast members.
"I just, like, don't wanna rush into a decision," Marissa tells Ramses in the teaser, during a conversation they have while sitting on a bed.
The next batch of "Love Is Blind" season seven episodes will air Wednesday, October 16 on Netflix.