Woman at desk in office in New York City
Christina Pensa at her desk in Midtown Manhattan.
  • Christina Pensa is an unmarried real estate professional in New York City.
  • Questions about her choice not to get married come up often in the workplace and her social life.
  • She wants to make it clear that many women are thrilled to be single and happily choose to stay so.

Heading into my third round of interviews for a high-level position at a commercial real estate firm in 2019, I was excited and meticulously prepared. I had analyzed market trends for weeks, brushed up on recent trades, and reviewed industry affairs.

I wasn't prepared, however, for the covert line of questioning into my personal life.