I had a miscarriage in my 20s and it confirmed what I always knew: I didn't want to be a mom

• Becky Martin grew up surrounded by kids and didn't think she could balance her career and motherhood.
• She changed her mind after getting married but had a miscarriage at 27.
• The couple agreed that not having children was the right decision.

We decided we were going to do it all — the house, the business, the backyard — all we needed was a kid.

For most of my life, I didn't want children. I spent my teens babysitting cousins and knew from a young age that parenthood was far from sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows.