I do a lot of the invisible labor in my house. I'm teaching my kids to 'notice and do' so I don't have to ask for help.

• Sam Kelly is a mom of three and a coach for mothers.
• She realized a chore list wasn't teaching her kids to see what had to be done at home.
• Now, she teaches them to "notice and do," rather than being told.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Sam Kelly, author of the "Notice and Do Guide." It has been edited for length and clarity.