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- Annie Sklaver Orenstein is a research lead at YouTube and an author.
- Her work has appeared in Time, NPR, Fast Company, and more.
- This is an excerpt from her new book, "Always a Sibling: The Forgotten Mourner's Guide to Grief."
The first time I felt true joy in the months after my brother Ben's death it was followed by a wave of depression that I had never anticipated. I hadn't felt joy, true happiness, in so long that I didn't think those kinds of highs were even possible. Then, when it happened, it was as if I had finally made it to the top of the tower of terror, only to plunge back down again.