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- I was with my partner for 19 years when we suddenly got divorced.
- I am now working on rebuilding my life as a 40-year-old, independent person.
- I am starting to find my identity and leaning on friends for support.
Nobody gets married planning to get divorced, and yet about half of all marriages end that way. This year I've learned even queer marriages aren't special or immune from this fate. Much to my great surprise, love doesn't always "win."