As a child of divorce, I did everything in my power to maintain a strong, healthy marriage. I accidentally sabotaged it.

• I watched my parents and stepparents divorce numerous times.
• I carefully studied what went wrong, trying to prevent the same issues in my marriage.
• The act of trying to prevent a divorce created a whole new problem to overcome.

As a young child, I couldn't get enough of hearing my parents' divorce story. I thought I was just a curious kid for many years, but looking back, I realize I was digging for something specific — the why. Why did they get divorced? What went wrong? How does it come to that, and what are the first signs?