I used to judge my daughter for not folding the laundry. Then I realized there was a heartwarming reason why.

• My daughter doesn't fold her laundry or do dishes right after eating, and I judged her for it.
• I do these things for her and her family when I visit, and I worry that it annoys them. 
• I realized that she doesn't fuss over cleaning because it gives her more time with her kids.

I think my kids should do their dishes immediately after eating, fold their laundry, and make their beds — because that's what I do. But I've never seen my daughter and son-in-law's bed made. I don't make it for them, but I do often empty their overflowing bathroom wastebasket when I visit them.