Terryn Witherspoon-Woolfolk and her husband cutting a cake on their wedding day
The author, left, wanted to be a mother and wife – not an academic.
  • After college, I ennrolled in a Ph.D. program I wasn't actually interested in. 
  • I eventually dropped out of the program so that I could focus on my husband and being a mother. 
  • I am now pregnant, and I'm so happy with my decision.

In high school, I knew college would be an important step toward success and a career. Nonetheless, my deeper desires involved finding "the one" — friends-to-lovers style.