A 104-year-old has been a professional lobster woman since she was 8. She says the secret to her longevity is keeping busy.

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Virginia Oliver measures and bands lobsters on her son Max Oliver's boat.

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I ditched gentle parenting. As my child got older, I felt like I was enabling bad behavior.

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My kids go to summer camp in Taipei. They get to learn Chinese and it's cheaper than in the US.

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The author and her family travel from the US to Taipei because summer camp there is significantly cheaper.

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People say you'll regret not having kids. I don't, but I wish I had done something special to honor my decision.

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Louisa Rogers (not pictured) and her husband decided not to have kids together.

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During summer my family moves from New York City to Illinois. Summer camp is more affordable there.

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Summer camp in Illinois is significantly cheaper than in NYC, the author says.

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Having an only child means we have more time and resources for her. But it doesn't make her spoiled.

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Having an only child means the author can give her all the attention and resources her daughter needs.

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When I brought my kids to a Pride parade, they were overwhelmed at first. But I learned children belong at Pride.

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The author, left, with her family at Pride.

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My dad had impeccable style. After he died, I started wearing his clothes to remember him.

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The author wears her father's clothes, including a Rolex he won in a bet.

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I'm a middle-aged man and father who struggles to make friends. Here's how I worked through my loneliness.

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The author, not pictured, struggled to make friends.

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I was born blind and with cerebral palsy. My dad raised me alone and fought for me to have everything I needed.

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The author remembers all the things her dad did for her before his death.

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