A wedding therapist says you shouldn't get engaged if you haven't talked about these 5 things with your partner

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You should be discussing kids, finances, and sex with your partner before getting engaged.

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My partner and I met with a divorce lawyer before our wedding. These were our 5 biggest takeaways.

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My then-fiancé and I met with a divorce attorney before our wedding.

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When we go on family vacations, one of us arrives 3 days early without our kid. It's the secret to our happy marriage.

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My husband and I made a pact never to divorce, even when it felt impossible. 30 years later, I'm glad we stayed.

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Christina Daves and her husband on their wedding day next to the couple decades later
The author and her husband have been married for 30 years.

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Marrying a surgery resident has redefined how I think about relationships. Support is picking up the slack without keeping score.

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The author and her husband in the snow.
The author's husband is a surgeon.

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We've been married for years, but we both love traveling alone. Solo trips have made our marriage stronger.

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The writer on a solo trip in San Juan.
I traveled to San Juan without my husband, and the solo trip only made our relationship stronger.

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When my husband wanted to retire early, I agreed to do the same. But I hated retirement life, so I went back to work.

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The author (not pictured) struggled with early retirement.

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The return of the wife guy: Why loving Priscilla made Mark Zuckerberg cool

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Priscilla Chan and Mark Zuckerberg
 

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My husband handles all the outside chores, and I handle the inside ones. This compromise is the key to happiness in our marriage.

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The author (not pictured) and her husband split their house chores evenly.

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This couple holds an annual 'goals meeting.' In 2024, they saved 6 figures and traveled to Greece and Italy.

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Durelle and Samantha Bailey at a coworking space.
Samantha and Durelle Bailey book a meeting room at a coworking space every year to discuss New Year's goals.

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