My wife almost died on Thanksgiving. The holiday carries a deeper meaning now.

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The author's wife was hit by a truck on Thanksgiving eve and spent 21 days in the ICU.

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I had my first 2 kids in my early 30s and thought I was done. I fell in love again and had a baby in my 40s.

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The author (not pictured) had two kids in her late 20s and a third one in her late 30s.

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I'm a lifelong golfer, but how I'm treated as a woman on the course makes me never want to play with strangers

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I've been playing golf for many years, but I've recently struggled with playing around strangers.

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I respect my kids' decision not to have children. Now, I need to accept it means I won't be a grandmother.

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The author's kids don't want to have their own children.

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I use the term 'partner' when speaking about my boyfriend. I didn't expect it to be a controversial label.

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A couple embraces as they look through the window of their apartment

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When I was 30, my mom gave me $15,000 to spend on a gap year in Italy instead of a house or wedding. I have no regrets.

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With my mom's help, I lived in Florence, Italy, at the end of 2023 and early 2024.

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My mom had me in her 40s, months after her mother died. Now that I'm older, I get why she did it.

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The author (not pictured) says she was a sorrow baby.

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My husband and I knew retirement would be tight in NYC. We moved to Mexico in our 50s, built our dream home for $270,000, and no longer worry about retirement.

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My husband (left) and I (right) moved to Mexico to retire and are much happier here.

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Moving internationally taught me how to declutter. Now, my husband and I live a minimalist lifestyle.

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Maria Polansky has learned the art of decluttering through multiple moves.

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I had one more baby when I turned 40. It was the best decision.

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The author decided to have one more baby when she was 40.

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