I was raised by my mom and her sisters. Growing up with 3 'mothers' has made me a more thoughtful adult.

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I grew up in a split-level home with my mom and her two sisters. My unconventional, modern upbringing shaped who I am now.

Sara Sturek

My dad's dementia care cost $17,000 a month. It wiped out his life savings in 16 months.

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The author's dad had dementia and needed round-the-clock care.

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When I was younger, being present was easier. Now that I have kids, I'm rethinking what it means to me.

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The author (not pictured) had an easier time being present before she was a parent.

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While other moms carried their kids' backpacks, I handed mine a wrench. It taught her independence.

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My closest friendships came from motherhood. They didn't last.

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The author doesn't speak to her mom friends anymore.

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I've lived in a van and an off-grid home. Both lifestyles had pros and cons, but neither fits our needs right now.

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Van life was a dream, but there were also some downsides.

Jayme Serbell

I spend Mother's Day at my son's grave. It's the only place I feel like a whole family.

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The author and her family spend Mother's Day at her son William's grave.

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I just landed my first job post-college after 2 years of unemployment. I should be excited, but all I feel is survivor's guilt.

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The author just landed his first job post-college.

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My grandmother stepped in when I needed her. I stepped up for her later.

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The author took care of her grandmother as she got older.

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My husband took over as CEO of the company I founded years ago. It wasn't a power grab, and it strengthened our relationship.

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The author's husband (right) took over as CEO of her company.

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