I wasn't prepared for the care crisis that hit my family. I'm learning how to raise 3 kids while tending to my aging parents.

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I now care for my aging parents and disabled brother in addition to my own three kids. I'm happy to do it, but I wish I had prepared more for my new reality.

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I've always had a difficult relationship with my mom, but now I'm her caregiver. I'm struggling to set new boundaries with her.

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The author (not pictured) is the caregiver for her mother.

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My fiancé and I feel no connection to our last names. We're debating whether to create a new one when we marry.

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The author and her fiancé are considering creating a new last name when they get married.

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I worried about who would care for my child with significant medical needs. I gave her 3 siblings to help when I'm gone.

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The author had three more kids after her first daughter was born with significant medical needs.

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I was a teacher for 10 years. I was never really happy until I changed careers.

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The author (not pictured) decided to quit teaching and is now a freelance writer.

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When my ex and I separated, I moved out of our family home. Having my own space made me a better mom.

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The author (not pictured) moved into a new apartment when she and her ex separated.

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I live on an island in Maine where kids still get to be kids. They play unsupervised, and the community looks after them.

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The author, not pictured, is a teacher in North Haven, Maine.

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I was having a hard time getting my teens to talk about their day. These 3 questions changed everything.

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The author found that her teens wouldn't talk to her about their days until she started asking the same things.

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I went to an all-inclusive resort with my best friend's family. I didn't know how much I needed a family vacation.

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The author, left, went on vacation with her friend Ashley's family, second from left, to an all-inclusive resort.

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I quit my teaching job and earn more money as a freelance writer. Here are the 5 keys to my success.

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I quit my teaching job to be a writer and I've never been happier.

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